Ask Yourself
01.
1. My child sets their own alarm.
2. My child sets an alarm but I go in to make sure they get out of bed.
3. I wake my child each morning.
02.
1. don't do anything.
2 email the teacher to let them know my child did it but left it at home.
3. get in the car and run it to school.
03.
1. assume my child knows the deadlines and will meet them.
2. remind them of the deadlines and allow them to follow through.
3. sit with my child and watch them submit the work by the deadline.
04.
1. talk with them about it and explore options to manage the conflict.
2. talk with them and offer to call an adult to help resolve the problem.
3. call another adult and resolve the conflict.
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05.
1. stay in touch.
2. stay in touch and track their whereabouts.
3. stay in touch, track their whereabouts, and I respond even when I am busy.
Results
Mostly 1's...Maybe not! Your child is likely managing themselves fairly independently and you seem to be managing your anxiety well.
Mostly 2's...It's tempting to want to fix things especially when your child is in distress but watch how your level of involvement might interfere with your child experiencing their successes as their own.
Mostly 3's...Your involvement is well-intentioned and loving but may lead to your child feeling anxious about how competent they are.